Preparing the room: warmth, light, pillows and a chair
Preparing the room means turning the heating up an hour ahead, a lamp instead of the ceiling light, extra pillows and a clear chair by the door for her coat.
A room shapes an evening as much as anything planned for it, and a guest who has spent a working life in hotels knows it well. Preparing the room takes a quarter of an hour or less and makes the first minutes of a visit easier for both of you.
Warmth
This is the one that matters. A room that is comfortable to sit in, dressed, feels several degrees cooler to someone lying still without clothes. Hotel thermostats are set for the first case and are slow to change. Turn the heating up about an hour before she is due, close the windows, and draw the heavy curtains in older buildings where tall windows let the cold in.
Light
A single lamp is kinder than the ceiling light. A bedside lamp is often enough on its own. If the room faces a busy street, close the curtains and the window; if the building is quiet, it will stay that way.
The bed and the pillows
She can work with nearly any bed, but it helps her to know in advance if yours is very low, very soft, or pushed against a wall. Ask housekeeping in the afternoon for two extra pillows: they give you more choice about how to lie and make turning over simpler.
A chair by the door
Clear the chair nearest the door so she has somewhere to put her coat and bag without moving your things. It sounds trivial and it removes a small awkward moment from the arrival.
What she brings
Her own towels, which she lays across the bed, and her own oil. She takes both away with her, so nothing belonging to the room is marked. For nuru, a walk-in shower matters, since that format finishes with a rinse; for every other format the bathroom plays no part.
Telling her beforehand
A line in the thread about the room is read before she sets out: warm already, a low bed, a second door downstairs. The slow start entry covers what happens once she is inside.